Love at first sight is true?(what scientist say)

Imagine you’re sitting in a cafe, walking down the street or standing in a crowd at a concert. You look up or turn your head and see a person you are instantly attracted to. Maybe it’s purely physical, or maybe it’s the way they’re dressed, smiling, or how they appear deeply involved in a book or music.

It feels unexplained, but your gut is telling you to talk to this person. You might work up the courage to say hello, or you miss the connection. Either way, something has come over you and you simply cannot stop thinking about that person. Is it an unhealthy obsession? Or love at first sight?

Love at first sight is true?

DO SCIENTISTS BELIEVE IN LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT?

Many biologists believe that love is a biological construct because all human cultures have the capacity to love, as well as some animals that appear to express it. Moreover, scientists report that all humans are genetically wired to be able to fall in love at first sight–it just doesn’t happen for some people.

Looking at what other people think, a survey found that 60% of people believe in love at first sight and 41% of men or 29% of women have reported experiencing love at first sight.

Some scientists say love at first sight could be possible, especially considering that it’s possible for our brain to make a decision about attraction in one-tenth of a second.

WHAT HAPPENS TO YOUR BRAIN WHEN YOU’RE IN LOVE?

When you fall in love at first sight, you might feel the urge or a gut reaction to bond with that person. This is because our brain releases Oxycontin–often referred to as the “love hormone”–during human contact and effects how you bond with that person. Since everyone responds differently, the association to the brain can either be good (love) or bad (hate).

Check out the video below to see how just one glace can urge a person to act and feel a certain way. (Scroll down to continue reading)

A study published in Nature (2009) discovered two key parts of our brains that are activated when we encounter a new person in our life. One area of the brain is referred to as the “amygdala” (our emotions) and the other is the “posterior cingulate cortex” (autobiographical memory), which also helps our brain make decisions and determine the value of what we’re faced with.

Moreover, research reveals that different parts of your brain work together to release chemicals (dopamine, Oxycontin, Adrenalin and vasopressin) that give off an experience of euphoria, bonding and excitement. When you fall in love, your brain releases these chemicals from different parts of your brain.

Think about how you feel when you start a new relationship. Everything is exciting, fun and you feel addicted to the person you are dating. If you’re a chocolate lover, it’s kind of the same feeling you get when you eat chocolate because the same reward system in your brain activates.

When you fall in love, your brain releases the chemical dopamine, which is the chemical released when someone uses cocaine. When you fall in love at first sight, it would feel similar to taking a hit of cocaine–a quick rush that feels rewarding and that your brain becomes addicted to.

Similar to how addition works, your brain experiences cravings, motivations and withdrawals when it experiences passionate, deep feelings of love. Your brain can therefore view someone as “chemically rewarding” meaning that the brain is releasing all these chemicals–and since your body wants to continue feeling this way–it wants to keep the source around. This is why love at first sight could be possible if your brain is able to quickly generate this kind of long-term attachment, which, remember, we are able to make a decision within a fraction of a second about whether or not we are attracted to someone. If we our brain reacts quickly enough, its possible your feeling of “falling in love at first sight” could be real.

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What will be your feelings when you are in love?

What will be your feelings when you are in love?

It feels like a warm blanket on a cold day. It feels like you found a missing puzzle from your life, which you didn't even know was missing. You know you can tell your deepest darkest secrets without the fear of being judged or without scaring them off. 
Falling in love is hitting a stable rock. No matter what happens, you know your partner is going to be right where you left, like a solid rock. Its having the mental comfort and emotional security. 

It makes you fall in love with yourself, because the person you love sees something worth loving in you. Falling in love is opening up emotionally to that one person, giving them access to your weakest vulnerabilities. It's taking a leap of faith. 

When you find your missing puzzle, there's nothing complicated about life anymore. Knowing you have someone to come home to, Knowing you have someone to grow old with. It's as simple as it gets.

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Check this tips before you chat on Matrimony sites

Nowadays, matrimonial sites have replaced the aunties and uncles who used to play the role of marriage maker or mediator between the two families. These matrimonial websites are simple to use.  Anyone can easily create their matrimonial profile and search a partner. But, the main concern of all registered members of these websites is to find the genuine and authentic profile. When you find a matrimonial profile matching your partner preference criteria, the first thing you do is to contact that person. But, there are a few things you should keep in mind before fixing your first meeting with that prospective partner.

Check this tips before you chat on Matrimony sites

1. Verify the profile: Once you receive an interest on your profile from a registered member, always verify the profile. It is very important for your own safety and security. Before accepting any matrimonial interest, you should always verify the profile details. Check whether the details mentioned in the matrimonial profile are true or not.
2. Check the genuineness: This is another big thing, which you should keep in mind while accepting any interest request. Always check the genuineness of the profile. Try to find out whether all the details mentioned on the profile like contact details, address, permanent address, email id and social medial details are true and genuine. If the website has some verification tool, use that tool. 
3. Check the authenticity of photographs: A matrimonial profile with photograph receive more interest as compared to a matrimonial profile without photographs. Most of the people update their photographs on these sites with their family, friends, vacation, office and other. But, it is important that you check the authenticity of these photographs. Try to find out whether these photographs are genuine or edited by some other tool to beautify. Also find out whether these photographs are recent or older. It will also give you a sense about the genuineness of the profile.
4. Visit social media profiles: Most of the people are very active on different social media websites. While checking any matrimonial profile, visit the social media profiles of that person. Don’t forget to visit the Facebook, twitter, linkedIn and other social media profiles. It will help in understanding his/her activities, interest and kind of person he/she is at personal level.
5. Are you meeting the whole criteria: You must have visited his/her profile before accepting the matrimonial interest? It is always good if you read the partner preference well in advance. Try to analyze whether you are meeting his/her partner preference and vice-versa.  Don’t accept the meeting invitation because he/she looks good or financially well-off. Always pay attention to your choice and expectations from your future partner. A small hasty decision can create a lot of problem for you in the future. So, be specific with your preferences. Meet only those who are meeting at least 80%-90% of your partner preferences.
6. Don’t get too personal before meeting: If you have done all the verification part and you are satisfied with his/her details, then you can take the next step. If you find that person genuine and reliable, then there is no harm in chatting with that person. But, always be smart in your conversation. Don’t just get swayed away with emotions and share too much personal things and information with him/her. This thing you should avoid in your initial conversations. Sharing your personal details can be used negatively and can be manipulated in long run. Therefore, to avoid any issue in future, just pay attention to your words and share only required information.
7. Don’t meet until you are not confident: Whether you are chatting with him/her from last two weeks or two months, don’t jump into meeting decision too soon. Unless or until you are not fully sure don’t agree for the meeting. There are many people who just say yes to meet everyone without even analyzing their profile. They even hardly bother to check the authenticity of the profile and just say yes for the meeting. But, this is not the right approach. These websites offer you unlimited features and services, use them to the maximum and stay safe. Even if you decided to meet that person, don’t go alone. Tell about this meeting to your parents or ask your parent or sibling to accompany you to the meeting place to avoid any unwanted situation.

Jadoo Matrimony is safe, but just remember this chat tips when you chat on the Matrimony sites. Thank you 

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Falling in love after marriage?

Finding love, getting engaged and getting married are amazing milestones in life. Each step is filled with excitement, good times and of course, the memories of falling in love. The entire journey of falling for someone is an unforgettable one and despite popular belief, it doesn’t end once you walk down the aisle. Falling in love after marriage is possible with a little relationship advice.

Here’s how to love your partner again after marriage:

Act like you just met

Love after marriage requires newness at some point. The easiest way to add newness into a relationship is acting like you just met. Remember that getting to know you phase in the relationship? Go back to that place. Ask your spouse questions that you would ask someone you are dating, go on more dates, ask him what his favorite meal is, ask her what her favorite flowers are and just have fun. Over the years, people change and evolve so acting like you just met can provide new insight on your spouse. Humans are complex. There is always something new to learn.

Get touchy feely

To enjoy the feeling of new love with your spouse again, touch more often. When you first fell for your partner, chances are you couldn’t keep your hands off him/her, right? Well, why stop now? Hold hands, give your partner a back rub, a massage or a kiss. Individuals need physical contact to feel loved and appreciated.

Address your partner’s needs

When two people first fall in love, they are very focused on one another. They do their best to make each other happy and tend to be very giving. As time goes by, this effort diminishes but it shouldn’t. Of course work, kids and other aspects of life may get in the way but in order to experience all the wonderful aspects of falling for your spouse once again, address his/her wants and needs. In order to do that, make it a point to make your partner feel good, praise their accomplishments and do what you can to make their day a little brighter. This also translates into the bedroom. Remember, satisfied spouses are happy spouses!

Give your partner a special name

Rekindle the romance by calling your partner a special name like ‘honey’ or ‘sweets’. It will take you back to your dating days when you were all over each other. Don’t address your partner with a ‘hey’ or ‘listen’. Be affectionate whenever you call out for your significant other. They are sure to take notice and will appreciate your gesture.

Make time for sex

Scheduling time for sex, much like date night, is absolutely imperative. Try something new, or do it on a lazy Saturday afternoon or on a regular week day by simply slipping into his morning shower. Whatever excites you both, but do ensure that you make sex a priority in your marriage.

Practice forgiveness and acceptance

Forgiveness reduces stress and replaces negative emotions with positive ones. Be mindful of this and accept your partner for who they are. This also means letting the small stuff go and appreciating them as much as you can. Such an attitude creates a positive environment for a healthy relationship and ensures both partners care and love each other.

Become a good listener

How else can you fall in love with your spouse again, you wonder? By simply listening to them! Give them a chance to open their hearts to you, allow them to express what they truly want to share and you will witness the love quotient increase in your marriage. Becoming a good listener also entails not offering them unsolicited advice. Sometimes, partner’s just want their other half to listen to them. Remember, only give advice when they have asked for it.

Do something special

Do something special for your wife or your husband that actually tells them how you feel. It could be baking a cake for your husband or buying that lovely dress your wife’s been eyeing since last month. It does not have to be anything extravagant – it just needs to show them that you care for how they feel and that their happiness is important for you. Little acts can go a long way.

Go through old pictures together   

Ladies, this one will surely make you fall in love with your husband all over again. Ditto for the gents! Reminisce about the old days by going through your pictures together. Going down memory lane can help you connect all over again in ways you cannot imagine. Take some time out or do this for your next date night!

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Why we need to getting married?

I personally find the answers that have been given so far (a lap to lie in, emotional support, and so on) unconvincing. Why? Because you can have those things without marriage. They are good answers to "why is LOVE important," but they are not good answers to "why is MARRIAGE important." Love and marriage are not the same thing. There are many people who love each other but are not married, and many people who are married who do not love each other.

So I'll try to answer your question about marriage. What are the benefits of marriage? I think there are two kinds of benefits: social recognition and legal protection.

Social recognition is important to a lot of people. When something is important to us, we like to have social validation of that thing. Not all of those social recognitions are purely validation a; some of them, such as employer-subsidized insurance being available to the spouse of an employee, are economic.

Legal protection varies from place to place, but all societies have them. In the US, for example, married couples get tax benefits. They have medical power of attorney in the event their spouse is incapacitated and unable to do things like consent to medical treatment. Spouses can jointly own property (and there are certain protections on joint property in cases like civil lawsuits, which do not exist in non-marriage joint property ownership). A spouse can share in certain kinds of financial benefits such as pensions. There are legal and economic protections regarding children or other dependents. A person can not legally be compelled to testify against his or her spouse in court.

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Tips for choosing a right partner for your whole life

Choosing the right partner will be a big question for you. Do you know to choose a perfect partner? If not this blog post will help you to choose your life partner. Read the quick tips given below, it may help you.

Tips to find the right partner

Know the type of person you would like to meet

You have to know the type of person you want before you can meet them. If you don’t know the type of partner you want, how are you going to recognise them? The first thing to do is assign the attributes you admire in a partner. Think of all the people you know and take some of the attributes you like and write them all down.

Visualise them in your mind

Once you have written down all the attributes you like, have an image in you head of your partner, their size, their rough looks, their personality, their sense of humor. Everything you want in you partner, try and visualize them and how the attributes you have written down play out in different scenarios e.g. how do they act in front of your friends, how do they treat you when you are out to dinner, how they act when they are with their friends.

Let go!

Let go of the thought of ever meeting your ideal partner. This may sound like a contradiction but it is very important. I am not saying stop visualizing them, as this is important, but let go of the outcome. By letting go of the outcome, you step back and trust another force to act on your behalf.

Trust

Trust that you will meet them. You will meet them; it might take time, but trust that it will happen. When you trust it will happen you will not be as lonely. Knowing that something will happen is a relief, there is no pressure and you can go about your normal daily routine happy in the knowledge that there are a few cupids looking out for you.

Be aware of little serendipitous moments

Look out for hidden messages. Although you have to trust that, your partner will appear you still need to look out for hidden messages in other areas of your life. If you get a strong sense that you should attend a party, even though you can’t be bothered, go to it. If you get a strong urge to go into town early one morning, go. If you feel a strong urge for a coffee and you see a starbucks, go buy a coffee. You ideal partner is waiting for as also. I wish you well and hope you meet your partner soon.

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