Love at first sight is true?(what scientist say)

Imagine you’re sitting in a cafe, walking down the street or standing in a crowd at a concert. You look up or turn your head and see a person you are instantly attracted to. Maybe it’s purely physical, or maybe it’s the way they’re dressed, smiling, or how they appear deeply involved in a book or music.

It feels unexplained, but your gut is telling you to talk to this person. You might work up the courage to say hello, or you miss the connection. Either way, something has come over you and you simply cannot stop thinking about that person. Is it an unhealthy obsession? Or love at first sight?

Love at first sight is true?

DO SCIENTISTS BELIEVE IN LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT?

Many biologists believe that love is a biological construct because all human cultures have the capacity to love, as well as some animals that appear to express it. Moreover, scientists report that all humans are genetically wired to be able to fall in love at first sight–it just doesn’t happen for some people.

Looking at what other people think, a survey found that 60% of people believe in love at first sight and 41% of men or 29% of women have reported experiencing love at first sight.

Some scientists say love at first sight could be possible, especially considering that it’s possible for our brain to make a decision about attraction in one-tenth of a second.

WHAT HAPPENS TO YOUR BRAIN WHEN YOU’RE IN LOVE?

When you fall in love at first sight, you might feel the urge or a gut reaction to bond with that person. This is because our brain releases Oxycontin–often referred to as the “love hormone”–during human contact and effects how you bond with that person. Since everyone responds differently, the association to the brain can either be good (love) or bad (hate).

Check out the video below to see how just one glace can urge a person to act and feel a certain way. (Scroll down to continue reading)

A study published in Nature (2009) discovered two key parts of our brains that are activated when we encounter a new person in our life. One area of the brain is referred to as the “amygdala” (our emotions) and the other is the “posterior cingulate cortex” (autobiographical memory), which also helps our brain make decisions and determine the value of what we’re faced with.

Moreover, research reveals that different parts of your brain work together to release chemicals (dopamine, Oxycontin, Adrenalin and vasopressin) that give off an experience of euphoria, bonding and excitement. When you fall in love, your brain releases these chemicals from different parts of your brain.

Think about how you feel when you start a new relationship. Everything is exciting, fun and you feel addicted to the person you are dating. If you’re a chocolate lover, it’s kind of the same feeling you get when you eat chocolate because the same reward system in your brain activates.

When you fall in love, your brain releases the chemical dopamine, which is the chemical released when someone uses cocaine. When you fall in love at first sight, it would feel similar to taking a hit of cocaine–a quick rush that feels rewarding and that your brain becomes addicted to.

Similar to how addition works, your brain experiences cravings, motivations and withdrawals when it experiences passionate, deep feelings of love. Your brain can therefore view someone as “chemically rewarding” meaning that the brain is releasing all these chemicals–and since your body wants to continue feeling this way–it wants to keep the source around. This is why love at first sight could be possible if your brain is able to quickly generate this kind of long-term attachment, which, remember, we are able to make a decision within a fraction of a second about whether or not we are attracted to someone. If we our brain reacts quickly enough, its possible your feeling of “falling in love at first sight” could be real.

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Main Benefits Of Matrimonial Sites In India

Most of those staying in urban India would have heard of matrimonial sites and know how they function. Unlike dating sites in the West, matrimonial sites in India operate on the basis of bringing in technology to facilitate what was so far known as an arranged marriage. The astounding growth of online matrimonial sites is largely because of numerous choices they offer to its users, making it very convenient for them to find a suitable partner. Statistics show that in the years 2012-2013, about 50-55 million people registered their profiles in some or the other matrimonial site.

Used mostly by people belonging to the 25-35 age group, their use of matrimonial sites have changed the way traditional India looks at marriages. This leads us to the reason why matrimonial sites are increasingly becoming so popular in the subcontinent. Matrimonial websites are big business because they blend in the traditional with the modern. Traditional families are happy that these sites offer them the choice of caste, creed, and other such parameters which they would otherwise look for in a prospective bride/groom; on the other hand, the huge database offers young people the chance to browse for someone based on their tastes, and then filter it down to someone they think they could connect to.

Reasons for the popularity of matrimonial sites

A reason why matrimonial sites have received the blessings of traditional parents looking at getting their wards married is because these sites haven’t tried to turn into dating avenues. The option of dating someone you like on a matrimonial site remains like a good aftereffect of the site. But primarily, it is used by young people and their families in search of partners who will be more or less similar to what they want in real life, based on their value system, social standing and other such parameters.

The above mentioned reason for popularity leads to the second reason why the matrimonial websites are such a hit. Apart from the different usability factors, these sites cater to not only the urban youth but the diverse communities and castes throughout India. The websites have large databases which cater to different religions, castes and communities that are the prime focus of most Indian families in marriages.

User-friendly and safe

When you visit one of the matrimonial sites, the first thing you notice is how user-friendly they are. As a result, whether it is youngsters or the elderly in the family, anyone can access these websites easily. Moreover, the websites have special features that have kept in mind the traditional mindset of many of its users. Features like privacy options help keep the identity of both the girl and the boy limited to only genuinely interested parties, and are not revealed to the random public, which makes many families comfortable using it.

Other features which are attractive to the users, are photo protection features, which do not allow anyone to copy or download the pictures; verified phone numbers, so that you know that the person you’re talking to is a genuine person; and intelligent contact filters, which help both the bride and the groom zero in on the kind of people they are looking for, very easily. Other friendly features include match alerts that are sent by the website to a registered member as prospective grooms or brides through their personal email and other such messaging services.

Most of these websites have a column called ‘Success stories’ which are stories of those people who have found their successful matches through that particular website. This column encourages those looking for partners, and tells them that finding their right partner is just a click away and it makes them confident that they would also find someone suited to their tastes.

Other attractive features

A highly desired service that is a part of some of these matrimonial services is the ‘personalized matchmaking services’. As a part of this service, you are assigned a highly involved relationship manager, who does all the background research on the prospective bride/groom on your behalf. Their job is to provide you with personalized assistance in finding the right partner for you, and in this endeavor, they use advanced tools that assist in the search for finding the right partner for you from amongst thousands of profiles. Not only that, they also assure you that you can effectively communicate with your desired partner and in this regard they help you meet up with the prospective partner too.

Surprisingly, many of these matrimonial sites also provide marriage counseling services and helping out couples with advice regarding how to deal with their marriages and how to make them work.

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Tips for choosing wedding dress for Bride

When it comes to wedding planning, there’s nothing quite as panic-inducing for a bride as being unable to find her dream wedding dress. With endless options to choose from, the most overwhelming part of choosing a gown is narrowing down the style that best suits you. Without an idea of what you’re looking for, the quest to say yes can result in endless frustration and trying on 100 gowns across a dozen salons—a serious bridal fashion nightmare.

So we’ve turned to Jacquelyn Ward and Ana Maes of Our Story Bridal for a bit of guidance. As the founders of NYC’s first luxury consignment bridal boutique for designer wedding dresses, they know a thing or two about nailing down your perfect bridal style—and why it’s helpful that you do. “It’s best to have an idea of what you’re looking for before you start the search,” says Ward. “It makes the process less overwhelming, and you will be more confident in your decision-making.”

“At Our Story Bridal, we are off-the-rack, which means buying that exact dress; this is great for brides on a short timeline or who want to avoid any risks when their dress finally comes in five months later,” adds Maes, who explains that because of this, brides should make an appointment with them when they're ready to buy and when they have a sense of what they might like. “If they’re not ready to say yes, then their dream dress might be snapped up by another bride.”

Needless to say, both Ward and Maes have a few tips up their sleeves on snagging the magically right dress for you.

1. Pinterest Is Your Friend

Yes, the amount of wedding dresses on Pinterest can at first seem intimidating, but in reality it’s the perfect place to source some inspiration. “Do a bit of research before you start the big hunt so that you can get a sense of what is available and what your eye is drawn to in terms of shape, details, and fabric textures,” says Ward. “Maybe it is an open back or the timeless sweetheart neckline or elaborate beading. Browsing online (even for an hour) can help you start focusing so that you’re not totally overwhelmed when you first step into a store with countless choices.”

Make a secret board and pin all the dresses you really love, then look for patterns and similarities among all your picks. And make sure you come into the salon with the app on your smartphone, ready to show your stylist your board. “It really helps us when a bride comes in with pictures so that we can get inspiration from her and help guide her search,” explains Ward.

2. Mood Matters

It’s important to set the mood and feel of your wedding before you start dress shopping. You don’t want your bridal style clashing with your wedding style! “This includes choosing the venue, deciding whether you want a daytime or nighttime wedding, and the time of year,” says Maes. “Do you want to be a boho goddess in a garden setting or a glam princess in a ballroom? These factors will affect your purchasing decision! Having a good idea of the vibe will help you choose the perfect dress that matches not only your personal style but also the backdrop.”

Doing this will make narrowing your dress choices down that much easier, whether you’re searching solely for a strapless gown for a July wedding or an airy chiffon A-line for beach nuptials. Plus, finding a gown in tune with your personal style and vibe will make you that much more comfortable on your big day.

3. Think Shape

“It’s best to try on a few silhouettes at your first appointment so that you can choose one that feels the most like you and fits your personal style,” says Ward. “Maybe it is the dreamy princess shape or the sexy fit-and-flare. You won't know until you try it on!”

She suggests paying close attention to how the dress fits your body type and whether it’s accentuating your best features and de-emphasizing your insecurities. “If you have always loved your narrow waist but are not a big fan of your hips, then an A-line shape might be the best fit for you,” she adds. “There are no golden rules for this. You know you have the right shape when you feel confident and beautiful!” And that’s exactly how you’ll want to feel on your wedding day.

4. Color Makes a Difference

Another element that will get you feeling confident and beautiful is the color of your dress. Just as silhouette enhances your shape, the hues of the fabric can do the same for your coloring.

“Dresses these days vary greatly in terms of color, from a brighter white to a creamy ivory to even bold pink,” points out Maes. “The right color can nicely accentuate and complement your skin tone. For example, whiter dresses may wash out those with fair skin, so those brides might look for something with a warmer ivory tone. Be sure to try on multiple shades of white or even color to see what looks and photographs best on you. Also, look at it in both natural light (if the salon has a window) and in indoor lighting, as the lighting will change how the dress color looks.”

5. Be You

Remember, your dress needs to represent you. Begin by putting your best foot forward during shopping. “If you feel your best in curls and makeup or clear lip gloss and flats, then go for it,” says Ward. “Buying your dream dress is an emotional decision, so you should shop feeling like the best version of you. This way, you can truly assess how you feel in the gowns.” It will also help you picture how you’ll look in the dress on the big day.

Once you’re at the salon, stay true to yourself by considering what fashion you lean toward on a daily basis. If you favor clean lines and solids, look for a minimalist gown, or if you love quirky, retro styles, beeline for vintage-inspired designs. Listen to your inner style and voice, which can also mean limiting the opinions. Ward suggests confining the entourage to one or two trusted pals or family members with great taste. “Of course, you want someone to point out that puffy sleeves are a thing of the past, but you also want to not be overwhelmed,” she says. “In the end, it is your gown, so stick to your gut and feelings.”

And, as one final note, when you’re finally ready to say yes, don’t be afraid to do so! As Maes puts it, “As long as it feels right and you feel like the best version of you, then go for it! It might feel like the long anticipated search is over, but you have found your dress soulmate. Hey, you will now have more time to figure out the countless other details of the big day!”

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Quick tips for bride for a perfect wedding

You want to look like the most beautiful version of yourself on your wedding day, of course. And what better way to do that than planning out a beauty routine in the months leading up to your wedding day? Check out the pro tips below to look and feel beautiful from the inside out.

1. Schedule Frequent Manicures

Get ready: As soon as you get engaged, everyone is going to ask to see your ring. Keep those nails and hands primed and pretty with regular manis. This is also your chance to experiment with colors and get to know your manicurist. Pro tip: Let your nail beds dictate the shape of your nails. Matching the two will give your hands and nails a balanced, elegant look.

Special splurge: Gel manicures use UV technology for a harder and smoother finished nail. They're a bit pricier but can last up to twice as long as a traditional manicure.

2. Whiten Your Teeth

You’ll want pearly whites for all those pictures you'll be posing for (but we also know how crucial coffee is during the planning process). Most toothpastes have whitening ingredients in them, but for faster results, choose a special whitening one. Whitening strips are also a great option.

Special splurge: Head to your dentist’s office to get your teeth professionally whitened. "Just don't go overboard,” warns makeup artist Sonia Kashuk, founder of her eponymous makeup line. “Anything that looks too artificial becomes too prominent in a picture." Pros suggest getting a professional whitening about six months out so your teeth aren't too brilliant the day of. Also keep in mind that continuous teeth whitening can wear down your enamel, making your teeth more sensitive to hot and cold.

3. Eat Healthier

If you can bear it, try staying away from sugar, lots of sodium and processed foods. These all lead to belly fat and bloating. Instead, focus on green vegetables, fruit and lots of water—all great for fueling your body, boosting your energy and clearing up your skin. And while a glass of celebratory champagne is to be expected from time to time, keep in mind that too much alcohol makes your skin puffy and dry (not to mention, you crave more snacks and junk food when you're buzzed).

Special splurge: Sign up for meal plans that deliver healthy meals right to your door like Hello Fresh (HelloFresh.com) and Sakara (Sakara.com).

4. Get Active

"Working out will help tighten and firm your body while also detoxing your skin," Kashuk says. A good workout also boosts energy and makes you feel happier (hello, endorphins!).

Special splurge: Join a gym. This way, you won't be able to use the weather as an excuse, and you'll have all the equipment you need for any kind of workout all in one place. Plus, exercising with others is always a huge motivation.

5. Lift Weights

A set of dumbbells will be your key to a more toned back, arms and shoulders. Try a trainer-approved exercise like a seated dumbbell press.

Special splurge: Consider a personal trainer. Your fitness pro will customize the session to help you achieve your goals. If months of personal training just isn’t in the budget, consider splurging for a few weeks and have your trainer create some plans that you can do on your own.

6. Pack a Day-of Bag

Whether it's flyaway hairs or false lashes that keep falling off, make sure you have an arsenal of bridal beauty fixers the day of. Start adding items as you begin to work out the details of your wedding, as well as during your makeup trials. You should have a plan of attack with your makeup artist should they not be there in a moment of need.

Special splurge: If you don't have the time to pull it all together, you can buy premade kits that come with hair spray, clear nail polish, deodorant and all those things you haven't even thought of.

7. Prep Your Face

Weekly exfoliation, either physical or chemical, can provide you with a smooth surface for makeup application. Adding a hydrating serum with hyaluronic acid can also help to plump up fine lines around your face. Apply it daily before your makeup for softer and smoother skin.

Special splurge: At least three months out from your wedding, start planning monthly facials with a professional. Facials boost your skin's health, helping it to look clearer and brighter. We’re loving microcurrent facials. Microcurrents  help to lift the facial muscles and depuff the face. Think of it as the perfect pick-me-up for your face.

8. Get that Healthy Glow

Skin that looks sun-kissed will give you a natural, healthy glow. Of course, always skip the tanning bed and use a gradual self-tanner like Jergens Natural Glow moisturizer (Jergens Natural Glow Daily Moisturizer, $10, Ulta.com). And if you really want a spray tan, schedule it a few days before the wedding for a beautiful glow (this leaves enough time to fix any trouble spots and let the color settle). And no need to go overboard, a one-time tan will give you just enough bronze for a sun-touched look in your photos.

Special splurge: Some tanning salons make house calls for an additional fee.

9. Do a Makeup Test Run

Besides your hair trial, you should also schedule a makeup trial at least three months before the wedding. This is where you'll fine-tune your look with your makeup artist so there are no questions day of.

Special splurge: Hire your photographer to take photos of you after you've had your makeup done (or schedule your makeup trial the same day as your engagement photo session). This run-through will ensure you know how you look in different lighting for your wedding photos. If your makeup looks too harsh or too subtle, have your makeup artist experiment and fix the issue.

10. Take Care of Your Brows

If you do your own tweezing, take this opportunity to splurge on brow shaping. The pros at salons will follow your advice, as well as offer suggestions for the best brow shape according to your face. Waxing is a popular option, but threading, which uses a cotton thread rolled along your skin to catch hairs, is  quicker and more precise. (It’s also the safest way to go if you're on antibiotics or skin medications) One you have your desired brow shape, you can continue the maintenance on your own.

Special splurge: See a brow specialist every three to four weeks starting about six months before your wedding. The regular visits may add up, but it’s your surest way to flawless brows.

11. Try False Lashes

Go for a drama with a full strip of lashes or get a softer, more romantic look by applying half lashes in the outer corners of your eyes. Longer lashes will enhance the shape of your eyes and focus all attention on your face.

Special splurge: Get semipermanent lash extensions at a salon. Extensions eliminate the need for mascara, which can actually lead to healthier eyes and lashes. They also last much longer than at-home kits. Applications stay on until they fall out naturally (you'll have to get touch-ups every two to three weeks if you want to maintain them).

12. Focus on Your Lips

Take care of your lips each night by applying a generous coat of lip balm or Vaseline. “Gently rub it over your lips in a circular motion with a wet washcloth," says Mally Roncal, celebrity makeup artist and founder of Mally Beauty. This will exfoliate and soften your lips at the same time.

Special splurge: Look for a salon that offers special lip treatments that focus on exfoliating, moisturizing and energizing your lips.

13. Have a Hair Plan

Work with your hairstylist to map out your hair care plan of attack. You may also want to start doing weekly at-home treatments a few months before your wedding, like your favorite conditioner mixed with a mashed-up avocado. (The creaminess of the avocado will increase your hair’s silkiness.) For an extra-glossy finish, look for shampoos and conditioners infused with olive oil, which helps tone down frizz and boost shine.

Special splurge: Go to your salon and have your stylist give you a customized conditioning treatment for your hair type—for example, curly hair needs more moisture than straight hair.

14. Get Smooth Skin

Have a tough-to-treat spot like dry elbows? Using a body scrub regularly in the shower will get rid of dead skin. Then, moisturize with a lotion that’s infused with almond or shea butter. Wrap your rough spot in a cloth for about an hour to keep the moisture locked in.

Special splurge: Head to the spa for a full-body scrub that will keep your skin smooth all over.  

15. Plan Hair Removal

That little peach fuzz just above your upper lip may not seem like a big deal in your everyday life, but you don't want it showing up in wedding photos. Start getting monthly waxes for best results. Not into the pain? Salons now offer special waxes using ingredients like chocolate wax and sugar, which are great if you're looking to walk out of the salon without too much redness.

Special splurge: Book laser hair removal appointments in one month intervals (three treatments are recommended for best results). After around seven treatments, the results can be permanent.

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Do you Know Marriage customs followed by Hindus in Kerala

In Hindu marriages the horoscope is the cardinal player in decision making. Nakshatra Porutham (matching of stars as per the horoscopes of the boy and girl) is essential to a marriage. An astrologer confirms the matching of both the horoscopes. Stars matching confirmation is the first step of Hindu marriage. After the stars matching is confirmed, the elder members of the boy formally approach the family of the girl. The broker who is the bridge between the two families approaches the girl’s family, equipped with complete details about the boy, his education and family details including financial status details. If the broker gets the node from the girl’s family, he reports back to the family of the boy. The elders of the boy’s family go to the house of girl to see her. If they are satisfied over the girl and the family, the boy is sent along with his friends to see the girl and ascertain the suitability. If the boy approves the girl, the family of the girl is requested to visit the house of boy. Their visit follows. If they are willing for wedlock relation, the next step is of fixing a date for visiting girl’s house by close relatives and neighbours of the boy. This is called Virunnu. On this visit they fix up a day with the girls family for betrothal which is Jathakam Vangal in local parlance.

For betrothal several dozen relatives and friends and neighbours go the house of the girl. If Mothiram Maral (exchange of ring) between the boy and the girl as token of marriage fixation) has been agreed upon, the groom, his father and mother will also accompany others. (In many cases the ring is exchanged during marriage). The important function during the betrothal is the receiving of girl’s horoscope. The horoscope is accepted by the elder uncle (mother’s brother) from the father of the girl. The horoscope is handed over standing before a Nilavilakku (traditional Kerala oil lamp made of bell metal) in which at least 6 cotton wicks are lighted and Nirapara (a full measure of paddy) with flowering coconut bunch on, betel leaves, areca nut and burning incense sticks. The receiver stands facing east; and the giver stands facing west. If ring exchange has been agreed upon during this function, the boy and girl exchange it with the initiation by the boy. Of late, Valayidal practice in the middle, upper class and families have started. Valayidal is that one or two gold bungle is put on the hand of the girl by her would-be mother-in-law. This function is held before noon during an auspicious time set by an astrologer. Thereafter sumptuous food is served to all. In many cases the day of marriage will be agreed upon this day, if not already agreed upon earlier.

The day, date and Muhoortham (auspicious time for Thalikettu – tying of nuptial knot – will be prescribed by an astrologer. A slip containing these details will be given to the family of the would-be bride by one or two elder members from the family of the would-be groom few days before the marriage. This is in spite of having intimated them these details earlier. Because it a custom.

On the marriage day the girl visits a local temple dear to her and gives Vazhipad (offering) and Nirmala (garland made of Thulasi – holy basil (Ocimum sanctum)) with a pray for successful married life.

On marriage day the groom and the party numbering 200 to 1000 arrive at the marriage venue before the Muhoortham. The elder brother of the bride receives the prospective brother-in-law with a bouquet by holding on the right hand of the groom by his right hand. The prospective mother-in-law of the groom showers raw-rice mixed with Thulasi leaves while a Nilavilaku is held by the wife of the elder brother of the bride’s father. It is her right to do so. All the three then lead the groom to the Kalyana Mandapam (a raised marriage platform) decorated with flowers and request him to sit in right side chair facing east. In front of the two chairs in the Mandapam there will be a Nirapara with flowering coconut bunch on, three traditional Kerala Nilavilakku, betel nut, areca-nut, tender coconut;, burning incense sticks, camphor, sandal paste, a photo of a god or goddess or a spiritual leader plus a priest to conduct the marriage rituals. Soon the bride worn by gold ornaments received as dowry from her parents and the costly Kalyana Saree(wedding saree) brought and presented by the elder sister of the boy (along with the Kalyana Saree complete dress for at-least one year’s use, cosmetics and footwear are brought along with the Wedding Saree. The elder sister who brought and presented to the girl is usually come along with 20 to 25 others) is brought to the Mandapam, holding a banana filled Thalam (auspicious wick-light in half portion of coconut placed in a circular brass or steel vessel) led by the elder and other sisters and close related females not numbering more than 10. The bride and the small entourage encircle the Mandapam 3 times and the bride is seated left to the groom. The priest meanwhile will have conducted the Pooja (rites). The priest, in the Muhoortham ,hands over to the groom the Thalimala (necklace with gold pendant) entrusted to him by the brother-in-law of the groom as soon as they reached the venue with a direction to tie around the neck of the girl, ensuring Thali (gold pendant) on the Mala (necklace) to be in the middle of chest. The elder sister of the groom assists to properly lock the Thalimala. During the Thalikettu (tying of naptial knot) Panchavadyam (five types of Kerala classical music) gets performed. The next procedure is garlanding each other, the bride garlands first. Then the father of the bride is directed by the Priest to get hold of the hand of the daughter and entrust it in the right hand of the groom and the father has to hold their right hands with both of his hands as right hand above and left hand lower the couple’s hands for a while. During this time the Priest recite some marriage-connected verses from Vedas for the happy and long prosperous wedded life. The father of the girl is required to re-recite the verses. After this the groom holding the right hand of the bride in his right hand is required to encircle the Mandapam three times. With this, the ceremony is over. As thanks giving bride and groom separately give Dhakshina (token amount in reverence) to the Poojari (priest) in betel leaves. The amount of Dhakshina should be entrusted to the couple by their respective brother-in-laws as a custom.

A full course sumptuous meal is served to all present thereafter.

After the meal is over, the groom and party proceed to his house with company of the bride. The departure from here is at a Muhoortham. At the groom’s house both bride and groom are received on similar lines as was witnessed at bride’s house. Here the part played by the brother-in-law at the bride’s house will be missing. The bride has to enter the house of groom by holding a Nilavilakku and she has to put her right leg first into the house.

Soon a group of people consisting relatives, neighbours and friends numbering 100 to 500 from bride’s family end come to the groom’s house for bringing back the couple. They will be served with a posh tea-party. To the return journey the bride and groom change their dress and wear a new set.

The next day the groom accompanied by a brother of bride visits his house and returns same day. He will remain 4 to 5 days at bridal house and thereafter the couple returns to his house.

Dowry is rampant amongst all the religions and all sections of society in Kerala. Gold ornaments are s major part of dowry: every class of society try to give a large quantity of gold to their daughter as a dowry. Its also a prestige issue now a days to give more gold ornaments. Other than that car, and home appliances are also common forms of dowry.

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Falling in love after marriage?

Finding love, getting engaged and getting married are amazing milestones in life. Each step is filled with excitement, good times and of course, the memories of falling in love. The entire journey of falling for someone is an unforgettable one and despite popular belief, it doesn’t end once you walk down the aisle. Falling in love after marriage is possible with a little relationship advice.

Here’s how to love your partner again after marriage:

Act like you just met

Love after marriage requires newness at some point. The easiest way to add newness into a relationship is acting like you just met. Remember that getting to know you phase in the relationship? Go back to that place. Ask your spouse questions that you would ask someone you are dating, go on more dates, ask him what his favorite meal is, ask her what her favorite flowers are and just have fun. Over the years, people change and evolve so acting like you just met can provide new insight on your spouse. Humans are complex. There is always something new to learn.

Get touchy feely

To enjoy the feeling of new love with your spouse again, touch more often. When you first fell for your partner, chances are you couldn’t keep your hands off him/her, right? Well, why stop now? Hold hands, give your partner a back rub, a massage or a kiss. Individuals need physical contact to feel loved and appreciated.

Address your partner’s needs

When two people first fall in love, they are very focused on one another. They do their best to make each other happy and tend to be very giving. As time goes by, this effort diminishes but it shouldn’t. Of course work, kids and other aspects of life may get in the way but in order to experience all the wonderful aspects of falling for your spouse once again, address his/her wants and needs. In order to do that, make it a point to make your partner feel good, praise their accomplishments and do what you can to make their day a little brighter. This also translates into the bedroom. Remember, satisfied spouses are happy spouses!

Give your partner a special name

Rekindle the romance by calling your partner a special name like ‘honey’ or ‘sweets’. It will take you back to your dating days when you were all over each other. Don’t address your partner with a ‘hey’ or ‘listen’. Be affectionate whenever you call out for your significant other. They are sure to take notice and will appreciate your gesture.

Make time for sex

Scheduling time for sex, much like date night, is absolutely imperative. Try something new, or do it on a lazy Saturday afternoon or on a regular week day by simply slipping into his morning shower. Whatever excites you both, but do ensure that you make sex a priority in your marriage.

Practice forgiveness and acceptance

Forgiveness reduces stress and replaces negative emotions with positive ones. Be mindful of this and accept your partner for who they are. This also means letting the small stuff go and appreciating them as much as you can. Such an attitude creates a positive environment for a healthy relationship and ensures both partners care and love each other.

Become a good listener

How else can you fall in love with your spouse again, you wonder? By simply listening to them! Give them a chance to open their hearts to you, allow them to express what they truly want to share and you will witness the love quotient increase in your marriage. Becoming a good listener also entails not offering them unsolicited advice. Sometimes, partner’s just want their other half to listen to them. Remember, only give advice when they have asked for it.

Do something special

Do something special for your wife or your husband that actually tells them how you feel. It could be baking a cake for your husband or buying that lovely dress your wife’s been eyeing since last month. It does not have to be anything extravagant – it just needs to show them that you care for how they feel and that their happiness is important for you. Little acts can go a long way.

Go through old pictures together   

Ladies, this one will surely make you fall in love with your husband all over again. Ditto for the gents! Reminisce about the old days by going through your pictures together. Going down memory lane can help you connect all over again in ways you cannot imagine. Take some time out or do this for your next date night!

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Why we need to getting married?

I personally find the answers that have been given so far (a lap to lie in, emotional support, and so on) unconvincing. Why? Because you can have those things without marriage. They are good answers to "why is LOVE important," but they are not good answers to "why is MARRIAGE important." Love and marriage are not the same thing. There are many people who love each other but are not married, and many people who are married who do not love each other.

So I'll try to answer your question about marriage. What are the benefits of marriage? I think there are two kinds of benefits: social recognition and legal protection.

Social recognition is important to a lot of people. When something is important to us, we like to have social validation of that thing. Not all of those social recognitions are purely validation a; some of them, such as employer-subsidized insurance being available to the spouse of an employee, are economic.

Legal protection varies from place to place, but all societies have them. In the US, for example, married couples get tax benefits. They have medical power of attorney in the event their spouse is incapacitated and unable to do things like consent to medical treatment. Spouses can jointly own property (and there are certain protections on joint property in cases like civil lawsuits, which do not exist in non-marriage joint property ownership). A spouse can share in certain kinds of financial benefits such as pensions. There are legal and economic protections regarding children or other dependents. A person can not legally be compelled to testify against his or her spouse in court.

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Tips for choosing a right partner for your whole life

Choosing the right partner will be a big question for you. Do you know to choose a perfect partner? If not this blog post will help you to choose your life partner. Read the quick tips given below, it may help you.

Tips to find the right partner

Know the type of person you would like to meet

You have to know the type of person you want before you can meet them. If you don’t know the type of partner you want, how are you going to recognise them? The first thing to do is assign the attributes you admire in a partner. Think of all the people you know and take some of the attributes you like and write them all down.

Visualise them in your mind

Once you have written down all the attributes you like, have an image in you head of your partner, their size, their rough looks, their personality, their sense of humor. Everything you want in you partner, try and visualize them and how the attributes you have written down play out in different scenarios e.g. how do they act in front of your friends, how do they treat you when you are out to dinner, how they act when they are with their friends.

Let go!

Let go of the thought of ever meeting your ideal partner. This may sound like a contradiction but it is very important. I am not saying stop visualizing them, as this is important, but let go of the outcome. By letting go of the outcome, you step back and trust another force to act on your behalf.

Trust

Trust that you will meet them. You will meet them; it might take time, but trust that it will happen. When you trust it will happen you will not be as lonely. Knowing that something will happen is a relief, there is no pressure and you can go about your normal daily routine happy in the knowledge that there are a few cupids looking out for you.

Be aware of little serendipitous moments

Look out for hidden messages. Although you have to trust that, your partner will appear you still need to look out for hidden messages in other areas of your life. If you get a strong sense that you should attend a party, even though you can’t be bothered, go to it. If you get a strong urge to go into town early one morning, go. If you feel a strong urge for a coffee and you see a starbucks, go buy a coffee. You ideal partner is waiting for as also. I wish you well and hope you meet your partner soon.

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